Man- Self Perception

It is difficult for a male on many levels because although he aims high, society has its own prejudice against him and there is this glass ceiling that constantly prevents him from reaching the level he wants to and this becomes highly frustrating for him. Much is expected of him but not as many opportunities are offered to him as he would like, therefore he is forced to make the most of what he has, but at the same time judged by what he has.


There is a constant struggle taking place within between the man he is and the man he envisaged himself to be. Each morning he wakes up with a certain level of frustration but motivates himself to continue by holding onto the vision in his mind of where he hopes to be. However he faces the challenges of sharing that vision with others when he is constantly put down or ridiculed because others cannot see past his current situation. He is tempted to agree with them but knows if he does he is inevitably giving up on hope and giving up on himself and giving up on all that he has, which is his dream. So he shares what he is confortable with others knowing but keeps his real dreams tucked safely in his heart and mind constantly working hard towards this goal.


He may have a criminal record or have spent so much time being incarcerated The past records continue to be a heavy burden on their shoulders and results in more doors being closed to him.


Or he may be from a good home and have many opportunities ahead of him, but his dreams have been forcefully limited to the expectations and directions of his family. The fear or consequences of disappointing his family suffocates his dreams and he feels forced to conform, but deep within he is unhappy and feels unfulfilled despite the praise he receives from those around him and how they measure his success.


Even the male image, the pressure to look good, the pressure to have a certain woman by his side, the expectation for him to be able to sustain and maintain himself. The pressure to be in a certain financial bracket by a certain age and the expectation of him to carry the family linage is a lot for him to carry. Although looking at him, he seems to have it all together but in reality he is struggling to juggle many aspects of himself and does not really know whom to turn to for support or help.


In addition to this a man enters a relationship and faces a different kind of pressure, at a point everything becomes overwhelming and even when he tries to explain she does not fully understand; although she wants to help him.



Therefore I believe it is important that as women we speak to the King we believe him to be. We correct him in the area that he needs to be corrected, Protect him in the areas he needs to be protected, support him in the areas that he needs support and most importantly Love him both at his strong moments and when he is most vulnerable. Help him to become the best version of himself, without loosing yourself. I was taught to believe that Love Conquers All Things.


Have a blessed week

Crystal Williams UD


Crystal Williams UD is the founder of Thinking Out Loud which is a conference held each year that encourages self love, promotes self-worth and most importantly empowers to feel comfortable in the skin that they are in. Crystal Williams is an affluent Poet, Motivational Speaker and Author. Her books have sold worldwide in the UK, Canada and USA.

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