Dear Younger me,
I hope today is one of your good days. I know you cry sometimes, but just want to let you know that pain does come to an end! even though it seems hard to believe right now. I don’t mean to be patronizing but I have seen your journey and just wanted to let you know how beautiful, strong and courageous you really are. From watching you I realised that life is not a race but rather a journey.
By the way if you meet a man named *blank* try your best to avoid him. But in the event that you fall in love with him again and get those butterflies in your stomach and in your mind you believe there is no one else in the world you would rather be with…then I suggest you enjoy every moment of it. Give him your best, love to the depths of you are and try not to be so stubborn. Let your hair down a little and allow him to teach you new things. But don’t be afraid to walk away if he treats you in a way that makes you feel less than a woman. Don’t listen to voices of reasoning when experience is showing you pain, decide in your heart what is best for you and trust me everything eventually falls in place.
Also when you look in the mirror try not to be so critical, I know right now you hate your curves, but trust me later you grow to love yourself. Try not to be so miserable that you starve in hope that you will look like the false images you see on TV, because trust me no matter how slim you get somehow there is no satisfaction in it.
Dear younger me, I honestly love your ambition and I hope you don’t change. Don’t allow society to dictate where you should be. Yes you are a beautiful young black young woman and you will learn how to carry the beauty of it. Yes you may experience racism from both side due to the colour of your skin, but dear me please do not loose sight of who you really are. It is funny it seems you are too light to be accepted as being black, to westernized to be accepted as being African, but yet too dark to be accepted as being white and too African to be accepted as being western. Most important is for you to know who you are, so that you are not fazed by the perception of others.
Also hold on to the advice that your parents are telling you. Although right now it appears that they are harassing you with their words, it actually becomes valuable later in life. Everything they taught you counts!
Dear Younger me there are so many things I wish to share with you right now. I am so appreciative of the steps you took, although there are days I wish you had made a different choice. Nonetheless I am a better me today because of you.
Learn to enjoy the journey and learn to stay prayerful along the way. Worshiping in times of joy and crying out in time of pain, for you will come realize that everything, no matter how dim the situation looks, works together for your good. You get to know that Greater is HE that is in you than any obstacle that comes your way.
Dear Younger me just to give you the heads up, not everyone you call friend is actually a friend to you, Learn as quickly as you can not to share anything too personal with others, unless it is for the purpose of encouraging and empowering them. Learn to understand that kindness is not weakness but being firm is necessary for survival. Learn to step away from people who make you feel insecure and surround yourself with people who are the very embodiment of love. Learn to be Love itself.
Dear Younger me, take good care yourself and dear Future me, I cant wait to see the amazing woman you become!
Crystal Williams UD.