Do you prefer dating older or younger men?

Initially my mind was not open to dating anyone younger than me. I did not even like the idea of dating a man my age, I always thought he had to be at least 5years or more older than me. Because the experience, the wisdom and guidance I considered priceless. There is something about an older man that is considered desirable and luring. However the idea of commitment and having children is an area that some are more hesitant to  explore. I find that ego and pride is strong and room to throw tantrums is not kindly looked upon.

Dating a younger man, surprisingly comes with its own perks. Somehow the younger man is less judgemental, which is somehow freeing. He allows you to be the fun and sometimes the eractic ‘you’ without making you feel immature or ‘crazy’. There is an innocence that cannot be explained because he is not out to play the same games. He is not afraid of commitment and has less baggage.  He is educated and has most of his shit together, yet not undermined by your success. You are equal counterparts without the need for the male ego- both of you lead the relationship.

However it becomes uncomfortable if he looks younger.  Even if he does not look younger his actions and some conversations will expose his youth and ignorance. But that is something that can be lived with. You may end up doing aspects of mothering, but saying that most women enjoy the nurturing role.

However the mutual respect is indescribable, the love expressed and the way he treats you revives your youth and makes you feel sexy all over again. The difference in age disappears.

I cannot say dating a younger man or older man is better that the other as both have their benefits and sides that are less desirable. But I guess keeping your mind and options open may bring you to finding love in the most unexpected place.

Love can be beautiful when with the right person despite their age.

Have a lovely week
Crystal Williams UD


Crystal Williams UD is the founder of Thinking Out Loud which is a conference held each year that encourages self love, promotes self-worth and most importantly empowers to feel comfortable in the skin that they are in. Crystal Williams is an affluent Poet, Motivational Speaker and Author. Her books have sold worldwide in the UK, Canada and USA.

2 comments on “Do you prefer dating older or younger men?

  1. Amaka Maks xo

    Keep your mind and options open- I’ll take that! Lovely blog sis ❤


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