That is a question that is becoming even more commonly asked. Are there any good men left? And why are women competing to get the attention of a man that is already taken?
We try to grasp hope from wherever we can, BUT the media keeps bombarding us with failed relationships, often reminding us of some of our own broken homes. It begins to play on our minds. Do relationships last in this day and age? Is it worth committing to one person?
We have been through the journeys of many women, to see the aches, the pains and the choices they have chosen to make. Hallie Berry was considered the most beautiful woman and her ex partner still cheated. David Beckham cheated on Victoria. Terroll supposedly cheated on Nikita and JayZ on Beyoncé. Damn!!! It makes us question if any of us are safe?
Then we see the break down in relations of Hollywood stars that just make you feel that little bit more disheartened. Showing you that beauty is not enough, cooking and catering to the every needs of a man is not enough. Sometimes the love that holds you together may not be enough to stop him from stepping out.
I am a strong believer that cheating happens only out of greed. We are living in a generation where we lack self-control and want everything in view. Everything that looks appetizing we want, without giving thought to the hurt our actions may cause on others if it comes to light.
Are there any good men left? Despite all that Social media throws our way, My answer is yes! Because even a good woman can fall if you choose not to have self control. A man does not stop being a generally ‘good man’ because he cheated, but once he has damaged the trust in the relationship, every other aspect of his character becomes blurred and almost irrelevant. The trust is gone and the pain sets in. What is a relationship without trust?
It can take years to rebuild and even though cheating says more about the person who stepped out, it does a lot to another persons self esteem; It brings in jealousy, paranoia and shame. That another woman can easily take what is supposed to be yours. It devalues the relationship to a certain degree. It takes a lot of work, frustration and patience to rebuild. But it does not seem worth the effort in some cases, because if he respected the relationship he would not have stepped out.
But no choice is the wrong choice. Whether you choose to stay and rebuild or you choose to walk away. You just need to be honest with yourself and what you think you can handle and what you think you deserve.
And to the women who choose to go after taken men. Why?
But there are good men out there. Gabriel union seems happy so does Michelle Obama and I am sure there are many others whom do not make it to the lime light.
Keep hopeful that you will find your good man/ King and he will be able to have eyes for you and you alone. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Make sure you affirm yourself each day and never loose sight of who you are and where you are going. Then the right man for you will find you.
Learn to love yourself first so that you can recognize the love that you deserve. #SelfLove
Love you all.
Crystal Williams UD