Involuntary victims are women who enter the relationship without knowing that he has another woman in his life. They build a relationship with the man and then at some point in the relationship discover that he is in another relationship or is even married with kids. At first she is devastated, disappointed and even angry but then falls into the category of a side chick when she chooses to remain in a relationship with him anyway and they still continue to have a sexual and emotional relationship. She is a side chic because:
She allows her emotions to lead
She is now fully aware that he has another relationship, which he is committed to, but she does not want to let go of the relationship because she values what they have built over that period of time and she has developed strong feelings for him. Also she may feel like she has invested too much into their relationship to just leave, so she remains in the relationship; often with the hope that he will one day leave the main woman he is with for her.
She is persuaded and does not shut the door
She allows him to persuade her, and says he is sorry and declares his feelings for her; and somehow she begins to accept the situation. In leaving the door of communication open to him, she is also keeping her feelings open to him and giving him a doorway to re-enter and keep her in his life as a ‘side chic’.
Abstract from my book “Women, side chic and the others”
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By Crystal Williams